Remoteliness – a new word in our vocabulary due to events beyond our control. Adversity is clearly present in the lives of most of us. How we handle that adversity and remoteliness will affect our lives for the next few years.
It’s not what happens in life that defines you but how you deal with your situations. You have heard by now the phrase when life gives you lemons turn them into lemonade. This is true today as it was whenever the first person coined the phrase. Use the following tips to help you turn adversity into success.
- Never Stop Learning.
Adversity can stimulate a feeling that you don’t know enough or aren’t smart enough. It is during times like this with unexpected and unplanned downtime that it is wise to “go back to school” in your trade or profession. There is more training available now than ever before, and you should seek it out, vet the provider, and dive deep into training programs, books, webinars and videos to further your knowledge and skills. I have clients who have never run an online meeting or webinar before 45 days ago and are now delivering stellar content on a regular basis to those they serve. They jumped in and just started doing video calls and presentations and are actually growing their business even today.
- Believe in what you are doing.
You have heard the classic tale of how Thomas Edison continued 10,000 times before getting the light bulb to the way he wanted it. It’s hard to say if that number became exaggerated over the years, but he likely tried several thousand times at least. The point is, he believed in what he was doing. When you try something that is untested, you need to take a leap of faith. Otherwise, it’s too easy to give up on your venture.
- Learn from your failures.
If you ask any successful person how they got that way, they will most likely tell you it’s due to overcoming failures. They learned from those failures and tried something different. Each iteration, they learned something new from their failures. They continued until there were no failures.
- Let others help you.
Sometimes, when you face adverse situations, others can help you to turn your situation around. It’s rare that anyone faces something unique. Others have been through what you are going through. Reach out to them. It’s better to get the help you need than to needlessly struggle with your situation. Some people avoid reaching out because they are embarrassed. Just remember, those people once went through it, too. They know what you are dealing with.
- If you are facing some adverse situation, it may be due to setting too high an expectation.
You could have tried to accomplish something that is not possible or beyond your current level of skills. By adjusting your expectations, you may be able to succeed in your situation.
- Don’t wait to try again.
If your adverse situation is due to procrastinating, you can probably figure out you need to stop that behavior. If you let something build because it’s uncomfortable to deal with, in most cases, the situation will get worse.
- Learn how to conquer your fears.
Often, adversity is due to not taking action because you are fearful. When you face your fears, you can move past the adverse situation and get on with your life. Try some daring activities like bungee jumping or skydiving. The point is to create situations that you would not normally find yourself doing. Usually, when you overcome one fear, the process helps you to overcome all of them.
- Another aspect to adversity is not being honest with yourself about the situation.
People tend to hide their true feelings or deny that they are facing a situation. Try some introspective to learn what is truly going on.
3 Actionable Steps
If you would like to do some further reading on overcoming adversity here are some books that will be helpful:
- In Defense of Adversity: Turning Your Toughest Challenges Into Your Greatest Success.
- The Gifts of Adversity: Reflections of a Psychologist, Refugee, and Survivor of Sexual Abuse
- Bounce: Overcoming Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy
I hope you emerge from all of this stronger, wiser and better prepared than ever before.